Dating and Mating Essay

In comparing and contrasting dating and mating we touch on a current topic of evaluation between the variances of the secular world views and the views of God. The secular world understanding on dating is based on what feels right at the time or just for enjoyment. According to Scorsone, Giorgia, ‘Mating, attractiveness and promiscuity’ M.A. dissertation, the secular world view of dating is choosing who their friends like or choosing a mate because of outward appearance or even for materialistic possessions. Highlighting the differences with Biblical views we can see how the secular world appears to have no standards when regarding the dating process of making a commitment. When we look at God’s perspective of dating we could refer to it as courtship. Courting is being in a committed relationship with the intentions of marriage. Although courtship and dating are not found specifically in the Bible we can still apply truths of how we are to treat other people. Courtship is the time-honored and successful time consuming of learning about someone, to know if there is compatibility for marriage. Often it involves friendship, discussing each individual’s future plans, knowing the parents, and praying privately for God’s will in the matter. The desire to not compromise the morals and standards is where we see the contrast of courting and secular dating. As a Christian we should love the Lord above all else. (Matthew 10:37) rather than following the dating scene, some people love their acquaintances more than they love God. The Bible says to say or believe that another person is â€Å"everything† or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians 5:20) In conclusion, the perception of secular dating rather than dating God’s way is where we can compare similarities but find major contrast. God wants his best for us in everything we do, especially in finding the right person for us to marry.